Q: I regret to say that I walked out on my wife and kids several years ago. Since the divorce, I’ve recognized my mistakes and changed my life (including coming to faith). I’d really like to get back in touch with my children, but they want nothing to do with me. How can I reconnect with them?
Jim: On one hand, it’s great to hear that you’ve put your life on a new course. I encourage you to keep moving in that direction. At the same time – and I know this sounds harsh – there’s a reason your kids don’t want anything to do with you: You abandoned them. We all “reap what we sow,” which means dealing with the fallout of our own selfishness and irresponsibility.
So, you need to be realistic and proceed cautiously. Your interest in reestablishing a relationship with your children is understandable and commendable. But you’re going to have to earn the right to make that dream come true. This will require humility, patience and a lot of healing over time.
