Daughter is growing up quickly

Q: My 12-year-old daughter is growing up fast -- including her perspective on clothing. As a dad, I want her to get a good handle on modesty before she becomes a teen, but I feel awkward addressing this subject with her. What’s my role here?

Jim: This question makes me glad I only had to raise two sons! Seriously, Dad is usually the first – and most influential – man in a girl’s life. That influence extends to the way he shows his appreciation for his daughter’s femininity, and in how he encourages her to express it.

As for enforcing the boundaries, if necessary, whenever possible that should be Mom’s territory. In contrast, Dad should affirm his daughter and help her understand the rationale behind the rules.